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		<title>Creepy</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Dec 2011 12:03:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When you start paying attention to your body, and even more specifically, when you start paying attention to how food affects your body, you&#8217;re easily freaked out. You start recognizing the horror film-like demons that live inside you. For instance, when I am making myself an espresso, and I smell the espresso brewing, I feel [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When you start paying attention to your body, and even more specifically, when you start paying attention to how food affects your body, you&#8217;re easily freaked out. You start recognizing the horror film-like demons that live inside you.</p>
<p>For instance, when I am making myself an espresso, and I smell the espresso brewing, I feel aches in the back of my neck and throat. I get this same feeling right before I am about to eat sweets. And it&#8217;s a similar physical feeling I get <strong>after</strong> I&#8217;ve eaten said sweets or drank said espresso, and 20 minutes later, when am on the down swing from the rush.</p>
<p>Is there a scientific explanation for this? Because I attribute this other worldy response to the &#8220;yeasties&#8221; &#8212; the overgrowth of yeast in my gut that I imagine drive me to drink coffee and occasionally gorge on sweets. And, sometimes the yeasties team up with the pack of hormones, who gather like wolves inside me while I am ovulating and drive me to indulge in food that I know doesn&#8217;t make me feel good long term.</p>
<p>They all somehow know the food is nearby &#8212; and drive me to notice.</p>
<p>They&#8217;re not very sympathetic either. Once they get what they want, they are not shy about messing with my insides. Just like I notice the pre-response of eating certain foods, I now also notice the icky things that come out of me after;  when I eat too much wheat or dairy, for instance.  Icky things that have to do with orifices and mucous and stink &#8212; things we normally associate with monsters.</p>
<p>If we cringe when we see monsters on the big screen, why don&#8217;t we cringe when we recognize monster-like behavior inside us? The mood shifts? The temper flares? The mucous? The stink? A lot of which, if we only took the time to notice, relates to the food we eat?</p>
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		<title>The absolute presence of pain</title>
		<link>http://thewellnessbitch.com/2011/12/05/present-pai/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Dec 2011 06:07:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Want to know one of the big epiphanies I had as a participant on a Zen Judaism retreat this past weekend in Israel? When I have a migraine, I am completely present. My mind is nowhere but on the experience of the migraine. The flashing zigzaggy lights I see before the crushing headache. The loss [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Want to know one of the big epiphanies I had as a participant on a <a href="http://eng.echannaton.org/category/general">Zen Judaism retreat</a> this past weekend in Israel?</p>
<p><strong>When I have a migraine, I am completely present</strong>.</p>
<p>My mind is nowhere but on the experience of the migraine.</p>
<p>The flashing zigzaggy lights I see before the crushing headache.</p>
<p>The loss of clear vision.</p>
<p>The understanding of exactly what is going on <strong>in this very moment</strong>.</p>
<p>And the understanding of what needs to be done&#8230;<strong>right now</strong>.</p>
<p>I am not thinking about the laundry. Or about my kid&#8217;s homework. I am not thinking about my finances or that obnoxious girl at work.</p>
<p>I am not obsessing over that stupid comment I made to my boss or the thing my husband said to me at dinner or the fight I had with my mother.</p>
<p>I am just <strong>with the migraine</strong>.</p>
<p>Do you ever notice how present you are to pain?</p>
<p>And then do you notice how <strong>not present</strong> you are to pleasure?</p>
<p>I do. Now.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been struggling again with migraines since I moved to Israel 11 months ago. Before I moved here, I had managed to be migraine-free for about three years (which I attributed to being completely dairy free).</p>
<p>Why are my migraines are back? Is it the dairy? I&#8217;m only eating a little. Is it the full-time office job? The people are nice there. Is it the sleepless nights (thanks to three little kids)? Or is it the fact that I just made a major international move to a conflict-torn country whose national language is not English?</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t have the answer. Not for lack of trying.</p>
<p>I thought I knew my migraine triggers: lack of sleep, stress, particular foods, bright flashing lights.</p>
<p>But I wonder now if my migraines aren&#8217;t <em>also</em> my body&#8217;s way of triggering something in me.</p>
<p>The need to be more present. The need to stop. The need to slow down. The need to <strong>be with me</strong>.</p>
<p>If I could somehow manage to be more present, would the other migraine triggers simply just fall away and disappear?</p>
<p>Would my body finally say &#8220;Thank you for noticing&#8221; and give up the migraines?</p>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
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		<title>The weakest link</title>
		<link>http://thewellnessbitch.com/2011/11/08/the-weakest-link/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Nov 2011 05:52:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[About seven years ago, I completely lost faith in my government. It&#8217;s likely that I was always wary of government and just never really noticed before. I&#8217;m not someone who typically submits to or mindlessly accepts authority. On the other hand, before seven years ago, I wouldn&#8217;t have called myself an activist either. Seven years [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>About seven years ago, I completely lost faith in my government.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s likely that I was always wary of government and just never really noticed before. I&#8217;m not someone who typically submits to or mindlessly accepts authority. On the other hand, before seven years ago, I wouldn&#8217;t have called myself an activist either.</p>
<p>Seven years ago, the scaredy cat in me still hoped that my government was doing a good job protecting me from the bad guys.</p>
<p>Seven years ago, I didn&#8217;t know <a href="http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2011/03/05/wikileaks-exposes-unholy-alliance-of-us-government-bill-gates-and-monsanto.aspx" target="_blank">how many bad guys</a> I needed protection from.</p>
<p>But then I woke up.</p>
<p>When I woke up, I slowly started to notice a chain that led from the government to my health and my children&#8217;s chronic illness.</p>
<p>A chain link of connections beginning with my oldest son&#8217;s first allergic reaction to peanuts and then his reflux and then his <a href="http://www.rhinebeckhealth.com/rhc/4-a%20disorders.php" target="_blank">asthma</a>. A chain link connecting my second son&#8217;s colic and his eczema. A chain link connecting my children&#8217;s health and the food they were eating and the cleaning products they were being exposed to and the vaccines they were receiving and the sprays that were blanketing the lawns they played in and the water they were drinking from the tap. A chain link connecting their health to their the environment.</p>
<p>And then I woke up to the weakest link.</p>
<p>The chain that was supposed to connect the government to our environment to our food to our water to our big business to our farms to our pharmaceutical companies <strong>was broken</strong>.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rixyrCNVVGA" target="_blank">Is broken</a>.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t know when it broke. When profit and political office became more important than protecting our children.</p>
<p>And I don&#8217;t know if one man or woman elected to office today can heal my wounds enough to restore my faith in government, but I would really like someone to try.</p>
<p>If your name is on a ballot today, please:</p>
<p>Try being a stand for my children.</p>
<p>Try being a stand for the environment.</p>
<p>Try being a stand for what nourishes our bodies and our minds.</p>
<p>Try fixing the break in the chain.</p>
<p>Connect us again. Heal this country. Heal this planet. Heal our families. Heal yourself.</p>
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		<title>Heal thy neighbor</title>
		<link>http://thewellnessbitch.com/2011/09/10/heal-thy-neighbor/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Sep 2011 08:03:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This morning, I was in my backyard lovingly watering my growing passionfruit vine and grapefruit tree. I feel very lucky to be renting home with inherited fruit trees and to have a mother-in-law with a green thumb and a generous heart. She planted the three vines alongside our fence with the hopes that the fast-growing vines would [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This morning, I was in my backyard lovingly watering my growing <a href="http://www.abc.net.au/gardening/stories/s2007495.htm" target="_blank">passionfruit vine</a> and grapefruit tree. I feel very lucky to be renting home with inherited fruit trees and to have a mother-in-law with a green thumb and a generous heart. She planted the three vines alongside our fence with the hopes that the fast-growing vines would soon produce fruit for us.</p>
<p>I have already admitted that I have a black thumb. Though I&#8217;m also proud to say the thumb is greening. One day, about a month ago, I realized how soothing was the practice of watering my trees and my herb garden. Perhaps, sometime in the near future, I might pick up a pair of gardening gloves and plant something into the dirt myself.</p>
<p>A few years ago I would have easily sprayed pesticides in my yard. No one likes weeds or bugs.</p>
<p>But now I know the collateral damage of pesticides, even the ones deemed &#8220;safe&#8221; enough to sell and buy at Home Depot.</p>
<p>Which is why I was angry and frustrated when I noticed my neighbor spraying his yard with pesticides at the same time this morning I was nourishing my trees. Not only was this a horrifying irony for me, but we live downwind from his house. The wind will blow the pesticides straight into our yard, and perhaps inside our kitchen through our open windows.</p>
<p>I wanted to say something to him. But he&#8217;s not exactly approachable. My neighbor is a military professional. He likes to walk around shirtless smoking cigarettes. He has a particularly hairy chest. The chest in itself is intimidating.</p>
<p>Had there not been a language barrier (his Hebrew, my English); would I have said something to him? Asked him if he knew about the harmful side effects of spraying pesticides to his and his children&#8217;s health?</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not sure I would have. Which is a little embarassing for The Wellness Bitch to admit.</p>
<p>What stopped me? Was it purely a language barrier? Was it a gender issue? Had I already made up in my mind he wouldn&#8217;t have listened? Wouldn&#8217;t have cared?</p>
<p>What stops us from sharing the information we know with our neighbors? With our friends and family? With our children&#8217;s teachers? With our colleagues at work or school?</p>
<p>And at what stops us from listening?</p>
<p>I thought about that, too. About all the times my mother or my mother-in-law tried to share useful tips about parenting or about marriage they learned from &#8220;the trenches.&#8221;</p>
<p>I thought about the advice seasoned moms of teenagers or young adults try to impart on me when I share with them stories of raising my school aged kids.</p>
<p>I thought about the countless times I screamed at my parents, &#8220;You don&#8217;t understand!&#8221; when I was a teenager, myself.</p>
<p>I thought about how they, in fact, did understand. And had wisdom to share that would go mostly unlistened to.</p>
<p>And then I considered the times I&#8217;ve listened.</p>
<p>What were the conditions that enabled me to free my hands from my ears? To open my eyes and my mind? To incorporate new information into my belief system?</p>
<p>1. I was seeking help.</p>
<p>2. I respected the person sharing the information.</p>
<p>3. I didn&#8217;t feel threatened. Or if I did, I felt safe enough in my environment, or with the person imparting the information, to tolerate my fear.</p>
<p>4. There were open lines of two-way communication. It was part of a larger conversation. The person on the other end was open to hearing my point of view, too.</p>
<p>As we continue to navigate a world where people are waking up to wellness; it&#8217;s important we recognize the pathway to transformation begins in our own listening. In being perceptive to our audience&#8217;s needs and ability to hear what we have to say. In recognizing their fears and the limits of their own belief systems. And measuring whether or not the time is right; or whether or not you are the appropriate messenger.</p>
<p>If you want to be heard, you must first start by listening.</p>
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		<title>A Labor Day Wake Up Call</title>
		<link>http://thewellnessbitch.com/2011/09/05/a-labor-day-wake-up-call/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Sep 2011 11:18:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Your work (what you do during waking hours) may contribute to your wellness or unwellness. This Labor Day, consider how your work and work environment impacts your health: Do you love what you do? Do you like it? Does your work, at least on occasion, move you? Does it expand your mind? Do you enter [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Your work (what you do during waking hours) may contribute to your wellness or unwellness. This Labor Day, consider how your work and work environment impacts your health:</p>
<p>Do you love what you do? Do you like it?</p>
<p>Does your work, at least on occasion, move you?</p>
<p>Does it expand your mind?</p>
<p>Do you enter each day eager to contribute? To learn? To participate?</p>
<p>Do you work in a space filled with positive energy?</p>
<p>Do you feel valued? Appreciated? Acknowledged on a regular basis?</p>
<p>Do you struggle to stay awake during the day?</p>
<p>Are you allowed breaks to rest? To feed your body properly? To engage in social conversation with your co-workers? Your friends? Your peers? </p>
<p>Does your work allow you the time or the resources to do the things you love once your work day is done?</p>
<p>Do you choose your work?</p>
<p>Or does it choose you?</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been lucky enough to understand most of my adult life the connection between my work and my health. I&#8217;ve noticed the impacts of my work &#8212; sometimes positive and sometimes negative &#8212; on my wellness. I understand the side effects of <strong>not</strong> choosing my work or  of tolerating an unhealthy work space may range from the physical (too much perfume!!!) to the emotional (mean, nasty boss!); and that the benefits of <strong>choosing</strong> my work include both physical (no more carpal tunnel syndrome!) and emotional (I get to spend real, quality time with my kids!), as well as the spiritual (Hooray! I am contributing to something meaningful!).</p>
<p>When you are taking inventory of your life &#8212; trying to figure out what&#8217;s causing illness or what&#8217;s preventing you from enjoying your well-being to full capacity &#8211; do not forget to look at those 8, 9, 10, 11 hours a day you spend DOING. Whether you are doing them in a classroom or in an office or in a playroom, what you&#8217;re doing during the day is certainly a factor contributing to how you feel.</p>
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		<title>Change of heart</title>
		<link>http://thewellnessbitch.com/2011/08/18/change-of-heart/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 18 Aug 2011 07:33:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s funny (and not) how often I have forsaken the Earth in the name of health. What I mean by that is I never directly intended to heal the planet by changing my lifestyle. My lifestyle changes were always very selfish: I cleaned &#8220;green&#8221; because it reduced my asthma symptoms. I started drinking filtered water [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It&#8217;s funny (and not) how often <a href="http://thewellnessbitch.com/2010/08/26/greenwasher/" target="_blank">I have forsaken the Earth in the name of health</a>.</p>
<p>What I mean by that is I never directly intended to heal the planet by changing my lifestyle. My lifestyle changes were always very selfish: <a href="http://thewellnessbitch.com/2010/02/02/lemon-fresh-lies/" target="_blank">I cleaned &#8220;green&#8221;</a> because it reduced my asthma symptoms. I started <a href="http://thewellnessbitch.com/2010/05/12/drink-me/" target="_blank">drinking filtered water</a> and stopped polluting water sources because I learned that water filled with the antibiotics I had previously flushed down to toilet was making me sick. <a href="http://thewellnessbitch.com/2011/01/14/apples-to-apples/" target="_blank">I started eating organic meat and produce</a> because I understood the long-lasting health consequences of ingesting toxins. I realized that my and my children&#8217;s symptoms of chronic illness were partially due to toxins in our environment.</p>
<p>I never really made these decisions with an eye on the planet, though I did understand that my efforts towards healing myself were also contributing to a healthier Earth. In fact, there were even times when I told people outright, &#8220;I&#8217;m not an environmentalist. I&#8217;m just a concerned mom who wants my children to grow up healthy. I&#8217;m just a woman who is sick and tired of being sick and tired.&#8221;</p>
<p>I wish I could say that my marketing campaign was strategic: I purposefully did not align myself with the green movement because I wanted to reach a population that was not going to be responsive to &#8220;healing the world.&#8221; I didn&#8217;t do it purposefully and yet somewhere down deep I think I understood that there was a <strong>group on the verge</strong>. People like me who didn&#8217;t necessarily possess an impulse to the &#8220;change the world,&#8221; but who were sensitive and rational and could understand the connection between healing ourselves, healing our planet, and healing humanity.</p>
<p>Perhaps I wasn&#8217;t operating on <strong>my</strong> plan, but a divine plan: To reach people through messaging they can access. Messaging that fits with their understanding of the world, which for many people is &#8220;Me.&#8221; Or &#8220;survive.&#8221; Or &#8220;feel better.&#8221;</p>
<p>I became a vegetarian in 1998  not because I thought eating animals was inhumane, but because I had a health scare and giving up meat seemed easier than giving up drinking and smoking.</p>
<p>I stopped eating sugar the following year because I was tired of getting yeast infections and I read a book that told me sugar addiction was connected not only to yeast overgrowth, but also to anxiety, IBS, and other chronic illnesses. That diet lasted about a month that first time.</p>
<p>I started doing yoga in 2000 because my therapist told me it was a way to deal with my anxiety. At that time, I practiced yoga, not <strong>instead</strong> of medication as I might now, but alongside. It took me a few more years to give up the crutch of medication.</p>
<p>In 2001, I got married and in 2002 pregnant: And from then on, my mission has been to know what I need to know to keep my family healthy.</p>
<p>In 2007, however, I realized (with the help of many friends and colleagues) that I had it in me to share my message of well-being and empowerment with others. As I said before, I never saw beyond health and wellness. I understood my mission of &#8220;healing my community&#8221; to be one that focused simply on personal health and wellness. My eyes were never set towards the horizon.</p>
<p>For many years, I ignored the fact that the Earth&#8217;s resources were being so exploited that one day it wouldn&#8217;t matter how healthy I was. Because the Earth would one day soon no longer be able to sustain even healthy beings.</p>
<p>Over the last year or so, however, my focus has shifted. My awareness has heightened. My awakening, which started in 1998, has reached a tipping point.</p>
<p>I understand that there is no divide between healing my planet and healing myself.</p>
<p>I understand that healing myself <strong>is</strong> healing my planet. And healing my planet is healing my family.</p>
<p>I understand now that I could work 24-7 on cleansing my body through detox or boosting it through vitamins and supplements, but that a dying world is not a world a healthy body can live on.</p>
<p>And I am worried that our world is dying.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t mean to be an alarmist or a doomsday prophet. But as a researcher, as a thinker, as someone who has woken up already to wellness, I cannot ignore the signs that our Earth is sharing with us.</p>
<p>She&#8217;s unwell. And if we don&#8217;t actively and intentionally incorporate into our wellness initiatives the healing of the planet, our wellness initiatives will be for naught. This message is directed to others like me who blog in an effort to educate or spark dialogue; it&#8217;s a message for health and wellness practitioners who preach holistic and preventative care and yet still use toxic cleaning products to wipe down their examination tables; it&#8217;s a message for the health conscious, and for the unconscious.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s clear to me that the only way we will heal ourselves is to adopt a two-pronged approach.</p>
<p>Heal the planet, so that you may heal. Heal yourself, so that the planet may heal. One depends on the other.</p>
<p>But to do this, we need to change our messaging.</p>
<p>My recommendation to the spiritual and wellness gurus out there who have the ears of many more than I:</p>
<p>Stop speaking esoterically. Stop using words like &#8220;Oneness&#8221; and &#8220;Mother Earth&#8221; and &#8220;Gaia.&#8221; These are words only the awakened can understand. We need to be reaching a much, much larger audience. And we need to be reaching them NOW.</p>
<p>Speak in a language that the average mother or grandfather or high school student or gym teacher or scientist or medical doctor or college professor or postman or construction worker can access. Speak to our awareness and our fear.  Speak to our logical minds. Speak to our preconditioned understanding of how to world is. Speak to our every day needs.</p>
<p>To speak this way is not to perpetrate negativity; it&#8217;s simply acknowledging that in order to speed up our global enlightenment, we need to turn the lecture into the Cliff Notes. It&#8217;s time to stop sounding elitist and academic and&#8230;well&#8230;weird. We can shift humanity. But to do this, we might need to stop using words like &#8220;shift humanity.&#8221;</p>
<p>There are many out there like me: People who will easily shift from thinking only selfish to thinking selfless. But without an easy onramp to the road of enlightenment, they will simply just keep driving down the road that&#8217;s familiar.</p>
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		<title>Alignment</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Aug 2011 17:19:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I remember distinctly when I first heard and fell in love with the word &#8220;fester.&#8221; I was on a high school summer political communications program in Washington, D.C. That night, Jill, a fellow Jersey girl, was offering up the punch line of yet another tale of her boyfriend back home, Terry, whom none of us had ever [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I remember distinctly when I first heard and fell in love with the word &#8220;fester.&#8221;</p>
<p>I was on a high school summer political communications program in Washington, D.C. That night, Jill, a fellow Jersey girl, was offering up the punch line of yet another tale of her boyfriend back home, Terry, whom none of us had ever met, but was quite the character.</p>
<p>Terry was not just a Jersey guy, but a permanent resident of the Jersey Shore (if I may use euphemisms) and presumably possessed a signature style of speaking and behavior that lent itself to fodder for good storytelling.  </p>
<p>&#8220;And then Terry says,&#8221; my friend set it up, &#8220;<strong>That guy</strong> <strong>is like a sore festering on the back side of my ass</strong>!&#8221;</p>
<p>Wow. What a visual, I thought at the time. Fester: It&#8217;s a verb, I thought, with the power of an adjective.</p>
<p>And now something is <a href="http://www.thefreedictionary.com/festering">festering</a> inside me. It&#8217;s not <strong>just</strong> annoying or irritating me, mind you; it&#8217;s causing me lingering worry and emotional pain.  And like a festering sore on the back side of my ass, I can&#8217;t ignore this worry because it doesn&#8217;t look like it&#8217;s going away.</p>
<p>My worry has to do with anti-Semitism.</p>
<p>What does anti-Semitism have to do with wellness, you ask?</p>
<p>I&#8217;d have likely asked the same question a few months ago. But recently I&#8217;ve discovered there seems to be a connection between the two. And I fear I risk something by sharing my concern with you; by bringing politics into a non-political blog. I fear I risk alientating readers or worse, attracting unwanted ugly attention to this blog. <strong>But, I realize I risk a lot more by keeping quiet</strong>.</p>
<p>While the connection between the &#8220;wellness community&#8221; and anti-Semitism is under the radar, the overlap between social progressivism and left-wing politics is not. For instance, it&#8217;s understood that an environmental activist is often a liberal voter, right? If I were a betting girl (and I am), I would place a wad of cash on the chance that the majority of card-paying members of <a href="http://www.greenpeace.org/international/en/" target="_blank">GreenPeace</a> don&#8217;t vote Republican.</p>
<p>In many ways, I&#8217;ve ideologically aligned myself with those liberal voters because they often subscribe to expectations for society I also support, such as a woman&#8217;s right to choose, egalitarianism in the workplace, and, most important, the freedom to question and protest government intention and policy.</p>
<p>However, I learned somewhere along the way (read &#8220;college&#8221;) that left-wingers are often also anti-Israel: Something I am not. I am pro-Israel. So much so that I now live here.</p>
<p>Particularly in recent years, as Israel has become a main target for left-wing activists, I&#8217;ve become more and more conflicted about my alignment. And, while I will agree that Israel is certainly a piece of the human rights puzzle, I find it frustrating that activists often have a singular focus on Israel. This singular focus is peculiar and suspect to me and has always smelled a little bit like anti-Semitism, and/or Jewish self-hatred. When I read their posts on my left-wing friends&#8217; Facebook wall I want to respond (but don&#8217;t): &#8220;But what about <a href="http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/babylonbeyond/2011/06/syria-children-killed-khatib.html" target="_blank">Syria</a>?!? Or Libya, or Cuba, or Iran or other non-democratic governments in the U.S. State Department&#8217;s <a href="http://geography.about.com/b/2008/03/14/us-state-department-releases-list-of-human-rights-offenders.htm" target="_blank">top ten most violators of human rights</a>? Can we also talk about them? Are you also boycotting them? Are you crying for their abused women, brutally treated gays, and starving children?&#8221;</p>
<p>As a Jew with an interest in history, I&#8217;ve learned that left-wing thinking and anti-Semitism are no strangers to each other. (Look up Marxist theory. Or spend some time on the campus of a Liberal Arts college.) And I&#8217;ve learned to&#8230;ignore it. It&#8217;s just not my <em>thang</em>.</p>
<p>As an American Jewish Wellness Bitch who recently became an Israeli Jewish Wellness Bitch, however, I&#8217;m increasingly disturbed by the amount of anti-Israel, and even anti-Semitic messaging I find running through many wellness-related blogs and forums I visit; ones that focus on the types of &#8221;alternative lifestyle&#8221; topics I&#8217;m interested in. </p>
<p>What do I mean by <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alternative_lifestyle" target="_blank">alternative lifestyle topics</a>?</p>
<p>Well, according to Wikipedia, something may be labeled alternative if it&#8217;s considered &#8220;outside the cultural norm,&#8221; but examples listed include lifestyle choices that I think many of us might consider normal, such as vegetarianism, meditation, herbal medicine, homebirth and hypnosis, to name a few.</p>
<p>It turns out, there are bloggers out there writing about topics I&#8217;m interested in (such as climate change and human consciousness) who are also entertaining submissions and comments from people who blame the world&#8217;s troubles on a &#8220;Zionist plot&#8221; or the Jewish-influenced media and banking elite.</p>
<p>Through following eco-friendly bloggers on Facebook and Twitter, I have discovered well-known and <a href="http://www.davidicke.com/" target="_blank">well-followed bloggers </a>who position themselves as health-conscious and as concerned for the welfare of humanity; who speak and write like intellectuals, not like members of the lunatic fringe; and who, in one figurative breath preach meditation and in the other, rant about the &#8220;Rothschilds&#8221; (a<a href="http://www.adl.org/special_reports/control_of_fed/fed_rothschild.asp" target="_blank"> reference to a Jewish banking conspiracy</a>) and accuse Jews and Zionists of being part of a &#8220;New World Order&#8221; involved in secret governmental affairs. </p>
<p>And just like other grassroots activists taking advantage of social networking, these individuals are also creating You Tube videos; they&#8217;re publishing e-books; they have radio shows and RSS feeds; all while <a href="http://www.bobtuskin.com/2011/08/08/81-members-to-visit-israel-zionist-traitors/" target="_blank">selling nutritional supplements</a> and invoking mantras.</p>
<p>It frightens me that an individual who may be <a href="http://beforeitsnews.com/" target="_blank">searching for news and information </a> about &#8220;natural medicine,&#8221; or &#8220;Monsanto,&#8221; or &#8220;global warming&#8221; will stumble upon the unfiltered alternative news site, Before It&#8217;s News, or the alternative news magazine &#8220;Signs of the Times,&#8221; which admittedly offers relevant wellness-related news you likely won&#8217;t get on CNN.com, but also dedicates a significant part of their content to <a href="http://www.sott.net/articles/show/233463-One-fifth-of-the-US-Congress-is-currently-in-Israel-on-a-free-trip-as-America-s-economy-falters" target="_blank">blatant anti-Israel op-eds</a> and conspiracy theories that position Jews as &#8220;<a href="http://www.sott.net/signs/list_by_category/16-Puppet-Masters" target="_blank">puppet masters.&#8221; </a></p>
<p>It&#8217;s mind boggling to me. How can you possibly promote &#8220;well-being&#8221; and &#8221;awakening&#8221; when you are still so stuck in a cycle of fear?</p>
<p>Is it not hypocritical and counterproductive to foster paranoia and anger against other human beings when you preach well-being? I just don&#8217;t get it.</p>
<p>My message today?</p>
<p>1. I am a Jew and an ideological Zionist and I am not part of a global elite. If I controlled the world, there would be a lot more love and compassion and a lot less fear. My children would be growing up in a world that was safe for them. My blog would already be a best-selling book. I&#8217;d have much cooler clothes. And there would be more love.</p>
<p>2. There are Jews and Israelis both, hundreds of thousands of us, who are <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/08/01/world/middleeast/01israel.html?_r=2&amp;scp=4&amp;sq=netanyahu&amp;st=cse" target="_blank">enlightened individuals</a> &#8211; vegans, <a href="http://www.greenprophet.com/" target="_blank">environmentalists</a>, green builders, holistic <a href="http://triumphwellness.com/blog/" target="_blank">health coaches</a>, energy workers, midwives, yoga masters, spiritual gurus, organic farmers, writers, thinkers, and teachers. All of us passionate healers and educators, and many of us whom are working both behind the scenes and publicly to foster peace in both this region and the world. Our only plot is love. Our only intention is healing.</p>
<p>3. There is certainly evil in this world, but it&#8217;s evenly distributed among all nations and our energy is better spent on healing ourselves than it is on imagining and assigning blame.</p>
<p>If you found this blog because you were searching Zionist Plot or New World Order or Anti-Israel, I invite you to consider the idea that there is a Zionist Jew out there whose only purpose is to be one of many guides on your road to wellness.</p>
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		<title>Body electric</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Jul 2011 09:21:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I am forever indebted to my friend Lisa Duggan who in 2007 asked me if I wanted to write a story for her magazine about local massage therapists. The magazine was a start up and while Lisa&#8217;s budget to pay freelancers was low at the time, she told me that the massage sessions would be [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am forever indebted to my friend <a href="http://theparentdujour.com/our-team-2/" target="_blank">Lisa Duggan</a> who in 2007 asked me if I wanted to write a story for <a href="http://www.themotherhoodblog.com/">her magazine</a> about local massage therapists. The magazine was a start up and while Lisa&#8217;s budget to pay freelancers was low at the time, she told me that the massage sessions would be covered.</p>
<p>It took me about five seconds to commit.</p>
<p>Back then, I was a &#8220;massage on my birthday&#8221; kinda girl. I got my first massage when I was in college; a gift from my parents. It was an uninspiring and painful hour spent in a room off the dark upstairs hallway of the local beauty salon. Fortunately, that experience didn&#8217;t turn me off of bodywork forever. I tried a different therapist the following year on my birthday and decided massages were definitely for me.</p>
<p>However, I viewed massage as a luxury item; the second to lowest rung on a ladder that started with pedicures and ended with a Mercedes Benz and a house in the Hamptons. Sure, I giggled with pleasure when my mom would surprise me with a mother/daughter massage appointment or a gift card for my birthday, but I never paid for them on my own and I never considered massage therapeutic or preventative care.</p>
<p>Until Lisa. The story she wanted me to write would feature three of the more &#8220;famous&#8221; massage therapists in our neck of the woods, and was intended to be a gentle comparison between the three, but mostly a feature on how massage (and bodywork in general) could be integrated into a mother&#8217;s wellness regimen. (The core readership of the magazine was local parents.) What were the benefits? How could massage be seen as more than just a well-deserved pampering?</p>
<p>I enjoyed three massages in three weeks. It was pure bliss.</p>
<p>But more than bliss&#8230;it was a wake up call.</p>
<p>I realized the true meaning of therapeutic massage. I understood both experientally and intellectually, after interviewing all three, just how much regular bodywork can contribute to our state of well-being.</p>
<p>To be more to the point: Getting a massage, or Reiki, or QiGong Meridian Therapy, or reflexology, or <a href="http://www.wellnesspossibilities.com/Glossary-Wellness-Services.aspx" target="_blank">craniosacral therapy</a> can keep you out of the doctor&#8217;s office. Or in my case, it could reduce the incidence of migraines; it could alleviate sciatica during pregnancy; it could balance my endocrine system and boost my immune system. It could keep my head and neck moving left to right and lead me to a good night sleep.</p>
<p>It was no accident that the writing assignment was offered to me at a major junction in my life. <strong>The moment at which I would choose wellness over illness</strong>. It was also around the same time in 2007 that the seeds of <a href="http://mindfullivingnj.com/" target="_blank">Mindful Living NJ</a> were planted; and my journey to educate myself and empower others began.</p>
<p>Today, I&#8217;m working towards getting rid of a sinus infection on my own, without the help of antibiotics. I&#8217;ve found that antibiotics do me more harm than good (particularly creating major imbalances with yeast in my system), so I try to avoid them whenever possible.</p>
<p>I have been using a nasal wash with saline and grapefruit seed extract. I&#8217;ve been drinking Apple Cider Vinegar tea. And I scheduled an appointment with Tamar, who does a combination of bodywork (usually in the water) with the hopes that she could help open up my sinus passages and relieve the tension in my face and head.  My experience with Tamar (which was above and beyond expectations) also made me realize how much my body has suffered without body work since I moved to Israel in December.</p>
<p>When I consider the few contributing factors to why I&#8217;ve had more colds and infections since moving here than I&#8217;ve had in the last four years in total, I think about the fact that I was getting bodywork on a fairly regular basis &#8212; and here I have not been, at all.</p>
<p>Coincidence?</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t think so.</p>
<p>I invite you to change your way of thinking about bodywork. Instead of grouping it with the luxury items; the &#8220;what I want for my birthday list&#8221; or putting it away in the &#8220;I will never be able to afford it&#8221; file; think of bodywork in the same mindset you consider drinking eight glasses of water a day, or taking your calcium, or exercising, or annual exams. <strong>I daresay that regular bodywork, along with a mindful diet and good sleep, kept me out of the physician&#8217;s office for four years.</strong></p>
<p>I invite you to make an appointment with a local therapeutic bodyworker.  Not to knock joints like Massage Envy, but I would recommend seeing someone with many years of experience, preferably recommended to you by a friend. I also recommend seeking practitioners through <a href="http://www.wellnesspossibilities.com/default.aspx" target="_blank">WellnessPossibilities.com</a>, a wellness directory started by my friends Kathy and Dawn.</p>
<p>And last but not least, let me publicly acknowledge the professionals whose hands knew how to heal and who&#8217;ve helped my body remember what wellness is: Sue, Diane, Debra, Amy, Maia, Nate, Linda, Andrew, Suhail, Vera,  and any others I may have missed.</p>
<p><strong>Your work is appreciated and valued. Thank you.</strong></p>
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		<title>Wiped</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Jun 2011 06:43:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I consider myself very lucky to be past the diaper phase. All three of my kids were potty trained within reasonable, developmentally appropriate times; with my daughter (my third) achieving genius status. She was fully trained by 23 months. I thought babies who were trained before the age of two were simply myths, legends, or [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I consider myself very lucky to be past the diaper phase. All three of my kids were potty trained within reasonable, developmentally appropriate times; with my daughter (my third) achieving genius status. She was fully trained by 23 months. I thought babies who were trained before the age of two were simply myths, legends, or products of overactive imaginations of mothers who spent way too much time gushing about their children. Not so.</p>
<p>It’s been a year or two since I’ve had to think about diaper accoutrements. But today I asked my coworker for something to clean my computer keyboard with and she handed me a baby wipe.</p>
<p>I took it…reluctantly.</p>
<p>After wiping down my keyboard with the baby wipe, it was no longer sticky but it smelled like an eighty-year old women who forgot that she already sprayed herself five times with perfume. Not a smell I want to be spending my day with.</p>
<p>And, not something you want to be wiping your babies bottom…or hands with.</p>
<p>Before I had my first child, a friend of mine told me she made homemade baby wipes for her baby using paper towel and water. She said her daughter never had baby rash – never a one! Being the psychotic mom I was with my first (and by psychotic, I mean obsessed with doing things “right”), I made my own baby wipes, too, and taught my husband how to use them and make them.  And, just like my friend’s baby, my son stayed rash free for months!</p>
<p>The truth of the matter is poop stinks. But baby poop, especially breastfed baby poop, is NOTHING. My refrigerator smells worse than your breastfed baby’s poop! You do not need to be wiping her fresh bottom down with chemicals that are trying unsuccessfully to smell like the <a href="http://www.saint-petersburg.com/parks/summer-garden.asp">summer garden of St. Petersburg</a>! Even if your baby is formula fed – trust me, those poops are nothing compared to what they’ll smell like once she’s eating meat. Even still, you really don’t need to wash your baby’s bottom with anything more than water, and a little natural baby soap. (We liked California Baby brand’s unscented baby soap for sensitive skin, but castile soap is great too, and a lot cheaper.)</p>
<p>Janelle Sorensen of Healthy Child, Healthy World recently posted <a href="http://healthychild.org/blog/comments/9_better_baby_lotions_and_potions_you_can_make_in_minutes/">this great article</a> with tips for homemade baby products, including baby wipes.  If you are a new mom, or a mom with a new baby, please keep in mind that what you put <strong>on</strong> your baby matters as much as what you put <strong>in</strong> her.</p>
<p>And if you are a psychotic new mom-to-be like I was, just remember: If you’re reading this and thinking about it, you’re one step ahead already.</p>
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		<title>Trendy</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Apr 2011 11:41:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jen Maidenberg</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Before I had kids, but when I was adult enough to start thinking about having some, I knew their names would be Emma and Sam. Being a Jennifer, I always wanted kids with names that weren&#8217;t unusual, but were not so common to be on the list of the top 50 most popular names. Why &#8221;Emma&#8221; and &#8220;Sam&#8221; [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Before I had kids, but when I was adult enough to start thinking about having some, I knew their names would be Emma and Sam. Being a Jennifer, I always wanted kids with names that weren&#8217;t unusual, but were not so common to be on the list of the top 50 most popular names.</p>
<p>Why &#8221;Emma&#8221; and &#8220;Sam&#8221; then, which were both easily in the top 25 by the time I had my own children? (None of whom are named Emma or Sam.) </p>
<p>I&#8217;m a trendspotter. </p>
<p>I liked those names <a href="http://www.thenewparentsguide.com/most-popular-baby-names-1997.htm" target="_blank">in 1997</a>: a good five years before Rachel Green <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0583472/" target="_blank">named her baby Emma</a>.</p>
<p>I tend to be aware of things before they become a trend. When they&#8217;re still a little unknown and even unaccepted.</p>
<p>Please understand: I&#8217;m not a trendSETTER. In general, no one gives a shit what I say, think, or do, except for a handful of you loyal readers. But, every now and again, I tell my friends and family about a new product or behavior, and before you know it, you&#8217;re reading about it in USA Today.</p>
<p>I sense this happening with American society&#8217;s concern about food coloring.</p>
<p>While unfortunately the FDA did not in March retract <a href="http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704471904576228550619608050.html" target="_blank">&#8220;its long-held position that the dyes pose no risk to children or anyone else</a>;&#8221; more mainstream media outlets are <a href="www.nytimes.com/2011/04/03/weekinreview/03harris.html" target="_blank">reporting on the matter</a> and more parents are reading and sharing these links on their social media networks.</p>
<p>I have my relatives forwarding me links from <a href="http://wap.npr.org/news/Health/134962888" target="_blank">NPR</a> writing, &#8220;You told us about this five years ago!&#8221; My husband looks at me with a proud smile when he sees the top story on CNN health is about new studies linking ADHD and food dyes.</p>
<p>I <strong>don&#8217;t</strong> want a pat on the back or a medal. I do, however, want to be able to walk through a grocery store in under an hour because I no longer have to read and monitor the long list of behavior-disturbing and asthma-inducing chemicals in my family&#8217;s food. I <strong>do</strong> want to be sure that the produce I buy is naturally colorful, not from Citrus Red 2, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Citrus_Red_2" target="_blank">which is a carcinogen</a>. I want to know that when my kids go to their friends house for a playdate, they&#8217;re not going to return climbing the walls because they ate Yellow #5- laced Kraft Mac and Cheese.</p>
<p>I <strong>don&#8217;t</strong> need my sister-in-law to call me and tell me she&#8217;ll no longer have fruit punch at her kid&#8217;s birthday party. Or my son&#8217;s preschool teacher to let me know she removed the Fruit Loops from school projects. (Though both would be dye-free icing on the cake.)</p>
<p>But I <strong>would</strong> like to see that this is a trend that takes. And benefits us all.</p>
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